1 September 2021
Each week, Dr Kirstin Ferguson tackles questions on the workplace, career and leadership in her advice column “Got a minute?” This week, navigating after-hours emails from the boss, casual sexism, and finding a new career.
This is a tricky one since working from home does mean everyone’s usual routines are completely tossed about. If your boss has kids home schooling and is simply trying to manage their home life during a pandemic, as well as managing their job, they may only be able to catch up on work emails outside “normal” hours. It’s hard to know their situation without having an open discussion with them.
I do think there is a responsibility on your boss as well to explain, and make it completely OK, that their emails are not read or actioned until the recipient gets to them whenever their working from home circumstances allow. I have noticed some people are putting a note like that on the bottom of their email signatures just reassuring people they work at strange times and have no expectation that you do. Even better are the people who use the schedule function so emails are sent during regular hours.
Basically, I think a conversation does need to be had. Find a way to inquire with your boss about their expectations on all the emails you are waking up to each morning, and see how the discussion progresses.
“Gents” is such a dated word. What you have identified is casual sexism and I’m sure you are right, none of the men receiving or sending the email would have even noticed. I know I’ve experienced this sort of thing earlier in my career and was never brave enough to say something – I always worried that the issue, in isolation, would be seen as hardly worth talking about. I may even be tarred as one of those “crazy feminists”.
Well, that was early in my career. If it happened now (and I am so sorry to hear that it clearly is still happening now), I would speak up and happily risk the compliment of being a feminist.
I might try and find a humorous way to address it or I would go straight to the person who always uses that language and just ask if they could use something else like “Hi all”. It’s not that hard to be inclusive, but so many people who have never experienced feeling excluded sadly don’t make the effort.
That is a tough one and yet it is a question that the pandemic has led so many people to ask. There have been a number of articles recently about “The Great Resignation” sparked by the pandemic. Work that we may have been prepared to put up with before no longer seems tolerable. I mention all this to reassure you that you are not alone.
That doesn’t make your decision easy though. Fortunately you are discovering you don’t like your current career now and not at the end of your working life. There are so many opportunities to work in ways we may never have thought possible. I recommend you find some space to yourself and imagine what the perfect career looks like to you. Don’t only think about what you are doing but how you are doing it; think about where you want to do it; the kinds of people you want to be working with. Form a really clear picture in your mind. I have every confidence you will be able start to make conscious and unconscious decisions that will set you on that path.
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